Women get itches too and at times do not want a man around for anything else but a booty call. If he is a friend that can provide sexual benefits, that is even better for her. Although women and men have the same sexual needs some act on it differently. There are in fact many women who are quite capable of engaging in a "friends with benefits" situation and who actually prefers it depending on where they are in their lives. Funny enough, this was an area thought to be dominated by men, when the shoes are on the other foot and it's the women who want a sex only relationship, then a lot of men are unable to handle it.
When those types of men approach a woman for these benefits, they are counting on the woman to be desperately seeking a relationship, that way they can count on the woman always being available for them and their needs. What is interesting, however, is if the woman were to agree to the situation, but after some considerable time has past, she found someone with whom she would like to pursue a more serious relationship, the man then behaves as if she just struck a knife through his heart. Since he was the one who had initiated the casual relationship he knew the nature of the friends with benefits situation, so why would he get upset when the woman moved on? However, if he had met someone else first, he would not have expected the woman to get upset since she knew what the deal was from the get-go. His response indicates that he is unable handle this type of relationship.
As one of my male friends keep insisting, there is a biased role that exists between women and men in our society. Men are expected to want sex in any variety and therefore have the freedom to approach women with their needs and expectations. But here is where the biased role-plays up. They are the only ones who should have this privilege, while a woman should only want a committed relationship, not a sex relationship. And if a woman requires a sex relationship then she is vilified. Where do men get off thinking that woman should not behave in a certain manner? As I just mentioned, they count on women being desperate for a man so they the men can use this to their advantage. But if they meet a woman who also wants a FWB situation, see how quickly the tables turn and it's now the man who wants a relationship and then the woman is criticized for lacking self-respect. The man now starts to "develop" feelings and begins to call the woman more frequently. He invites her out to lunch, gets jealous when she goes out with another man and he now wants her to meet the family.
Now, I don't care how much a woman knows what the deal is, if she is in any kind of relationship with a man and he now wants her to meet his parents and the rest of the family, a woman would be crazy if she did not start to get relationship ideas. Here is where it does become confusing. But women, be forewarned this is his immature way to get you to break and start to fall in love with him, just so his twisted ego will be assuaged. This is because he cannot understand why you had agreed to the friends with benefits situation and you are actually handling it and behaving like he would have. Now he wants you to start getting emotional and clingy. Those kinds of men are insecure. One guy tried to play that trick, but I busted him and kicked him to the curb. He came back around, apologized and he never tried it again. I told him that if he wanted to change the nature of our relationship then be a man and talk with me about it, but don't try to play games with my emotions.
However, there are some men who are twisted enough to use a woman who is agreeing to a friends with benefit situation to feed his ego. If a woman is not aware of his motives, then she might find herself in a dangerous situation. They will approach a woman with a friends with benefits situation and the woman agrees. Now, not only does she agree to the situation, she can handle it, but this throws the man off his game because she was not supposed to handle it. She was to get all caught up in him. So what does he do? He flips the script. He starts calling the woman all the time. He will ask her out, start being affectionate. Now the relationship has changed because he changed it. Women, this is where you should be careful. While it is understandable if you change according to the guy changing the nature of the relationship, be forewarned. This is where his game gets twisted. The minute you start to change your attitude from friends with benefits status to a relationship status, this is where the Mr. Hyde personality of the Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde comes out. Because you were not chasing him from start he had to find a way to get you to start chasing him and thus feeding his deep-rooted insecurities. He had to behave like this just to get some attention.
Women, this is what you do when he starts to go against the friends with benefits script. Let him know that his behaviour is confusing. Tell him that he needs to make up his mind about what he wants and until he does, the two of you need to go your separate ways. The minute you call him out on his behaviour, I guarantee you that he will either slink off with his tails between his legs and out of your life or he will look into himself and begin to shape up his behaviour. Don't let him get away with trying to twist up your mind.
There are grown woman who can make their own choices and is secure within themselves. These are women who are too busy to have a serious and committed relationship so when they want to have their needs met, they have a friend who they can trust, who will come over for the night when called or pre-arranged. We have a drink or two, have sex, talk politics, crack jokes (all not necessarily in that order). He then goes home after a few hours. They have a strong mutual respect for each other and they don't get clingy.
Any mature, adult woman or man can have this kind of relationship if they so choose. People, especially woman, need to realize that they have a choice in anything that they do. If a woman is settling for this type of relationship, so is the man. We need to STOP MAKING WOMEN INTO IDIOTIC SIMPLETONS! Women can make choices of their own free will. So if this is not the relationship for you, then simply do not partake of it. If a man wants a friend with benefits, but the woman wants a husband with benefits, then she needs to move on to the next.
This is simply a matter of making a choice that meets your individual needs. When women love and respect themselves, they will make choices that reflect that love and respect. That can also be different for each woman. My choices and what I can deal with or want for myself in this moment is different for another woman. But of course what I want can change a year or two year from now.

About The Author:
Trudy-Ann Ewan is a Wholistic Life Coach, Motivational Speaker, Author who is passionate about helping individuals create their passionate life. She specializes in the healing of Heart, Mind, Body and Soul. She works with individuals who are seeking to empower themselves and become more confident to live the life they desire. She motivates and educates individuals on how to fall in love with themselves and create a balanced and (w)holistic life by developing a better relationship with themselves without judgment. You can join her on Facebook: http://tinyurl.com/createyourpassion