How do you develop self-confidence when you feel that you have none? Can you picture the day when you feel really good about yourself? How will you feel? How will you speak? What will you look like? The tips I will share with you will help you get you closer to that day. Everything I will share with you in this article I have learned and used to build my self-confidence.
The benefits of self-confidence are many: your social life, your career, your relationships will all become better. Why? When you possess self-confidence people will see you as different, because they energy that you give out will be different.
Think about someone you know who exhibits self-confidence. Think about the energy they give off. Self-confidence is attractive, people like to be around those who possess it, they give off a charisma. The tips I will share with you will help you be that person. There are 3 components to becoming self-confident: Your thought life, your speech and your actions
Self-confident people say, "I can" If they see a problem they think, "How can I solve this?" Self-confident people possess a positive thought life; they see the plusses and not the negative. They have an 'I can' attitude and not an 'I can't' attitude. So the first thing for you to do is to change your mentality.
A way for you to do this is in the morning while showering and getting ready is to recite positive affirmations to yourself. Examples such as "I am self-confident", "I can do... "Think of what you want to be able to do, it may be something you have to do that day. You should repeat these affirmations about 5-10 times. Other things you can affirm about yourself are the qualities you possess: I am kind, I am a good listener, I am intelligent; whatever you are.
Every day you should use positive affirmations. Make it a habit to do it in the morning. As you do this, you will begin to see a change in how you think, as you encourage your mind to think differently, as you sow seeds of positivity.
The second aspect is how you speak. I'm going to give you some do not's. Do not always apologise for everything. Here is what I mean, you don't have to apologise for not being able to do something for someone. If a friend says, "Hey, can you help me move house on Saturday?" but you've already got plans, you don't have to apologise. It is acceptable to say, "I already have plans on Saturday." One think you could do in this situation is offer an alternative, "Do you need any help Friday night or Sunday?"
Another "Do Not" I'd like to share is the use of the sound 'errrr' when you speak. A lot of people say "Errrr" between thoughts to show that they are thinking, but what it does is make them sound unsure or unprepared, or just plain unintelligent.
It is a habit that you need to break if you do it. If you need time to think, say to the person you are speaking with, "Let me just think." They then know why you are going quiet for a moment. Allowing yourself to having a moment's pause also allows you to formulate your thoughts to make sure you are saying the right, intelligent and confident words.
How we carry our self tells others a lot about our state of mind. We don't always think about what message we are sending, but it is very important. We all subconsciously send and read body language all the time.
When you walk you should always look up, not down at the floor. When we look down to the floor we are giving a message that we aren't confident, that we aren't open to talking with them. You should push your shoulders back and hold your stomach in. This will create a positive state of mind and it gives the message to others that you are self-confident, even if you aren't.
These are a few simple strategies for you to use starting today. Remember confidence starts in your mind and shows through your speech and actions. Growing in self-confidence is a journey and what I've shared with you is just a start. I wish you all the best as you grow in self-confidence.

“I will get married soon. It is in the pipeline. I believe in the institution of marriage.” - Sushmita Sen

Sushmita Sen recently stated that she is looking to get married soon.

Many of her male and female fans from all over the country are already showering "congrats" and "blessing" upon her.

What makes me laugh is at the irony of how hypocrite the society is.

Just because she is such a famous person everyone is praising her.

But what about the "traditional Indian marriage guidelines" she has broken-

1. She has been involved in relationships before marriage.
2. Obviously she is no Virgin.
3. She has 2 adopted daughters. So she is a mother even before marriage.
4. She has battled psychological problems like weight gain and depression.
5. She has exposed enough for thousands of men to have fantasized about her.

Had "normal girl" done any 2 of these, people would be labeling her with names ranging from "characterless" to "mad". And labelled her unfit for marriage.

Sushmita Sen is an example of modern indian woman... but the big question is Indian society ready to accept the concept of "modern indian woman" rather than just accepting Sushmita Sen.

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Where to get it: Avocados, Macadamia nuts, and olive oil are great sources of monounsaturated fats. They also come packaged with great nutrients such as antioxidants (in olive oil), fiber (in avocado), and B-vitamins (in macadamia nuts).

2. EGCG: EGCG or Epigallocatechin gallate is an antioxidant found in green tea (and put in most weight-loss supplements available today). EGCG can increase thermogenesis or heat production through extra calorie burning and the use of stored fat as energy. Some research also shows that EGCG can stop the growth of new fat cells.
 Where to get it: The greatest weight loss effects of EGCG are seen when combined with caffeine, as it naturally occurs in green tea.
3. Raspberry ketones: Raspberry ketones are an antioxidant found in raspberries that preliminary research shows have some interesting fat loss effects. Raspberry ketones can increase the production of the muscle-energizing, fat-burning hormone adiponectin as well as directly increasing the burning of stored fat.
Where to get it: You can't come close to getting enough raspberry ketones via eating raspberries so to reap these benefits you'll need to take a concentrated raspberry ketone supplement (they are inexpensive and available at more health food stores). Keep an eye out for more about raspberry ketones and weight loss as new research gets published.
4. Docosahexaenoic acid (DHA): Docosahexaenoic acid or DHA is one of the two omega-3 fats found in oily fish like salmon. DHA can stop growth of young fat cells and actually causes them to die, says research published in the Journal of Nutrition.
Where to get it: To get more DHA in your diet, you can eat more oily fish or just take a fish oil supplement. If you are a vegetarian, pick up an algae-based DHA supplement to reap the same benefits.
5. Acetic acid: Vinegar, a dilute form of acetic acid, has potent glucose-lowering effects. One study in Italy found that when participants added just more than1 tablespoon of vinegar to their meal (as salad dressing) they experienced a 30 percent decrease in their post-meal blood sugar levels. Controlling blood sugar remains an essential component to weight loss and maintaining a lean body.
Where to get it: Adding vinegar to salads should be standard protocol, but if you can manage to find chocolate balsamic vinegar, it makes an excellent addition to a protein-packed chocolate smoothie.
6. Protein: Protein from lean sources like beef, poultry, fish, dairy, or soy are weight loss rock stars. The amino acids that make up protein cause your body to release the fat-burning and energy-stabilizing hormone glucagon. The process of digesting protein also stimulates your body to release the satiety hormone CCK. This one-two punch combined with the fact that it takes your body more energy to digest and breakdown protein compared to carbohydrates or fat makes it a must-have at every meal throughout your day.
Where to get it: The possibilities are endless, but lean proteins like Greek yogurt , cottage cheese, and organic grilled chicken strips are especially convenient.
7. Caffeine: Caffeine is one of the most potent weight loss compounds available to you each and every day. Caffeine blocks the breakdown of a compound call camp, which is responsible for mobilizing stored fats so they can be burned as energy.
Where to get it: If you are looking for a bigger fat-burning boost, then make sure to choose black tea over green tea or light roast coffee over dark roast for a largerdose of caffeine
8. Fiber: Fiber is often touted to be a great nutrient for weight loss because it slows down digestion, allowing for sustained energy and stable blood sugar. However fiber can also optimize hormones released during digestion that are responsible for feelings of hunger and satiety.